Honoring Angel Mothers: What to Say and What Not to Say on Mother's Day

Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate and honor mothers everywhere. But for those who have experienced the loss of a child, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss, this day can bring a mix of emotions that are difficult to navigate. It’s crucial to acknowledge that a mother is a mother regardless of whether her child is on earth or in heaven. Whether she carried her baby for a few weeks or several months, her love and connection are just as profound.

What to Say:

  1. Acknowledge Her Motherhood: Begin by acknowledging her as a mother. A simple “Happy Mother’s Day” or “Thinking of you today” can mean the world. You could also say, "Your love for your child shines brightly today and every day."
  2. Offer Compassion: Express your support and understanding. Let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk or if she needs a shoulder to lean on. You might say, "I'm here for you, whether you want to share memories or simply need someone to listen."
  3. Validate Her Feelings: Let her know that her feelings are valid and that it’s okay to grieve. Phrases like “I can’t imagine how difficult today must be for you” show empathy and understanding. You could add, "Your feelings are valid, and I'm here to support you in any way you need."
  4. Share Memories: If appropriate, share memories or stories of her baby. It can be comforting for her to hear that others remember and cherish her child too. You might say, "I remember when you shared that beautiful story about your baby. It touched my heart, and I want you to know that your baby is not forgotten."
  5. Offer Practical Help: Offer practical support, such as running errands, cooking a meal, or simply being there to listen. You could say, "Is there anything specific I can do to support you today? Whether it's running errands or just being here to keep you company, I'm here for you."

What Not to Say:

  1. Avoid Clichés: Steer clear of cliché phrases like “Everything happens for a reason” or “Time heals all wounds.” While well-intentioned, these clichés can feel dismissive of her grief. Instead, offer genuine empathy and support without trying to minimize her pain.
  2. Don’t Compare Losses: Avoid comparing her loss to others or minimizing her pain. Each person’s experience of loss is unique, and it’s important to validate her feelings without judgment. You might say, "Your experience is unique, and I'm here to support you through it."
  3. Don’t Gloat: While it’s natural to want to share your joys, be mindful of how you express them. Avoid excessive boasting or oversharing about your own children or Mother’s Day plans. Instead, focus on listening and supporting her without making her feel left out.
  4. Avoid Insensitivity: Be mindful of your words and actions. Avoid making insensitive comments or asking intrusive questions about her loss. Instead, offer genuine compassion and support, letting her know that you are there for her no matter what.
  5. Don’t Offer Unsolicited Advice: Refrain from offering unsolicited advice or trying to “fix” her grief. Instead, focus on offering your presence and support. You might say, "I'm here to support you in any way you need, whether it's a shoulder to lean on or someone to listen without judgment."

The Importance of Acknowledgment: Acknowledging angel mothers on Mother’s Day is vital. A mother is a mother, no matter how long she was pregnant for or how early she lost her child. By recognizing her motherhood and offering support, we affirm the significance of her bond with her baby and validate her grief.

Conclusion: On Mother’s Day, it’s essential to honor and support angel mothers with compassion and sensitivity. A kind word, a compassionate smile, or a warm hug can go a long way in comforting a grieving heart. Let’s come together to acknowledge and uplift angel mothers, reminding them that their love and motherhood are cherished and valued, now and always.

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What a touching post for Mother’s Day! As someone who has experienced miscarriage, I truly appreciate the recognition of a mother’s love, whether her child is here or in heaven. The advice on what to say (and what not to say) is spot on – sometimes, simple gestures mean the most. Thanks for reminding us to honor angel mothers on this special day. 💖 #MothersDay #AngelMoms


What a beautiful message for Mother’s Day. As someone who has walked the difficult path of child loss, I resonate deeply with the sentiments expressed here. Mother’s Day can be both a beautiful celebration and a poignant reminder of the children we hold in our hearts rather than our arms.


Most people find conversations about loss awdkward and uncomfortable but overlooking the fact that someone lost a child is not the way to go. Recognize the loss, mention the baby’s name, let the mother know her pain is not unseen.


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